Educating a therapist parent about effective executive function help — Ryan Wexelblatt (ADHD Dude)

𝗝𝗮𝗻𝗲: 𝘌𝘷𝘢𝘯 𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘦𝘹𝘦𝘤𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝘢𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭. 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘢 𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘪𝘦𝘤𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘪𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘺 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘶𝘵.
𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻: 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘦𝘤𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘭?
𝗝𝗮𝗻𝗲: 𝘏𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘤𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘥𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘦𝘴 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘴 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬, 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱𝘴 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝘰𝘳𝘨𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘻𝘦 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴.
𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻: 𝘖.𝘒. 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘱𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘩𝘪𝘮?
𝗝𝗮𝗻𝗲: 𝘏𝘦’𝘴 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘯 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘱𝘳𝘪𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘌𝘷𝘢𝘯 to 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 of 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘴. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘥𝘰 𝘢 𝘭𝘰𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘳𝘰𝘭𝘦-𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘤𝘦𝘯𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘴𝘰 𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮.
𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻: 𝘚𝘰 𝘢𝘴 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦, 𝘐’𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘦𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘨𝘶𝘺𝘴 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘌𝘷𝘢𝘯’𝘴 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘪𝘥𝘥𝘭𝘦 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘭 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘢. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘣𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘭 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘦𝘹𝘦𝘤𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱. 𝙀𝙭𝙚𝙘𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙛𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙬𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙡𝙤𝙤𝙠 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙩𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙝𝙞𝙢 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙜𝙞𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙖𝙣 𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣𝙚𝙧. 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚’𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙧𝙤𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖 𝙩𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙤𝙧𝙜𝙖𝙣𝙞𝙯𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙡𝙨, 𝙝𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮’𝙧𝙚 𝙙𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙝𝙞𝙢 𝙖 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙗𝙮 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙝𝙞𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙚 𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙖𝙨 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜. 𝙀𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮, 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮’𝙧𝙚 𝙙𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙨 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙝𝙞𝙢 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙨 𝙣𝙖𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙖𝙡 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙚𝙦𝙪𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚𝙨, 𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙨𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙠𝙚𝙚𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙝𝙞𝙢 𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧-𝙙𝙚𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙤𝙣 𝙖𝙙𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙨.
𝘼𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙖𝙥𝙮, 𝙀𝙫𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙣𝙤𝙣-𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙚𝙧𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙖𝙨𝙠𝙨 𝙞𝙨 𝙖 𝙣𝙖𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙖𝙡 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝘼𝘿𝙃𝘿. 𝙄 𝙘𝙖𝙣’𝙩 𝙨𝙖𝙮 𝙄 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙚𝙣 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙠𝙞𝙙𝙨 𝙙𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙡𝙤𝙥 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙣𝙤𝙣-𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙚𝙧𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙖𝙨𝙠𝙨 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙤𝙣𝙚𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙪𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙨 𝙤𝙧 𝙧𝙤𝙡𝙚-𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙮𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙙𝙨 𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙘𝙚𝙙 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢. 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙮 𝙝𝙚’𝙨 𝙜𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙙𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙡𝙤𝙥 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙮 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙘𝙖𝙛𝙛𝙤𝙡𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙝𝙞𝙢 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙚𝙥𝙞𝙨𝙤𝙙𝙞𝙘 𝙢𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙮. 𝙒𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝘼𝘿𝙃𝘿, 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩, 𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝 𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙮 𝙄 𝙩𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙝𝙤𝙬 𝙩𝙤 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙞𝙧 𝙠𝙞𝙙𝙨 𝙙𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙡𝙤𝙥 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨𝙚 𝙨𝙠𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙨. 𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙚𝙚𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙠𝙞𝙙𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧 50 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙪𝙩𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙖 𝙛𝙚𝙬 𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙪𝙩𝙚𝙨 𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙚𝙣𝙙 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙠𝙞𝙙𝙨 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝘼𝘿𝙃𝘿.

Jane was a professional acquaintance I knew because we were both members of a local organization comprised of educators & child mental health professionals in the Philadelphia area. Jane had a similar story to most of the therapist parents I had worked with. She initially sought out a fellow doctoral level psychologist to work with Evan, assuming that he would have the strongest skill set since he had a doctorate and marketed himself as an ADHD expert. She then reached out to me after 10 months because she accepted the reality that Evan wasn’t making any progress. (Apparently the first 3 months were Evan and the therapist “building rapport”.)

I taught Jane and Evan the strategies I teach in 𝗪𝗲𝗯𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗿 𝟰 𝗼𝗳 𝗘𝘅𝗲𝗰𝘂𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗙𝘂𝗻𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗖𝗿𝗮𝘀𝗵 𝗖𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲-𝙃𝙚𝙡𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙡𝙙 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 𝙣𝙤𝙣-𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙚𝙧𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙖𝙨𝙠𝙨 as well as the strategies I teach in the other webinars in the series. I also helped Jane to work with Evan’s IEP team at his school to reduce the IEP accommodations that were keeping him 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘵-𝘥𝘦𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵 on his teachers and were inhibiting him from developing his executive function skills and independence.

Jane was initially skeptical about my approaches, which was to be expected. What I was teaching her and Evan does not come from the mental health field and is contradictory to what most parents believe is helpful. When Jane began to see the gradual improvements in Evan’s independence and when his complaining/whining about doing chores at home went down to a minimum she became much more receptive.

If you feel like the traditional approaches you’ve tried to help your son or daughter are not effective you are normal, you are not doing anything wrong You have not received practical information.

If you have spent money on therapy, books, online parenting programs, coaching, tutoring, etc. with little results you probably have developed a healthy skepticism like Jane and most parents I meet.

𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗿 𝗱𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗵𝗶𝘀/𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗲𝘅𝗲𝗰𝘂𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗻𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗹𝗹𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗱𝘀.

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗻/𝗱𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗲𝗿:
1. 𝙍𝙚𝙖𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙫𝙞𝙚𝙬𝙨 𝙤𝙣 𝙀𝙭𝙚𝙘𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙁𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝘾𝙧𝙖𝙨𝙝 𝘾𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚 𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚: https://g.page/adhd-dude-ryan-wexelblatt?gm
2. 𝘾𝙝𝙚𝙘𝙠 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙢𝙮 𝙫𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙤𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙀𝙭𝙚𝙘𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙁𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙥𝙡𝙖𝙮𝙡𝙞𝙨𝙩 𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝘼𝘿𝙃𝘿 𝘿𝙪𝙙𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙏𝙪𝙗𝙚 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙡 𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚: https://www.youtube.com/playlist…
3. 𝙒𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙮, 𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙒𝙚𝙗𝙞𝙣𝙖𝙧 1-𝙐𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙡𝙖𝙣𝙜𝙪𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙪𝙞𝙡𝙙 𝙚𝙭𝙚𝙘𝙪𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙛𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚: https://adhddude.com/executive-function/

The ADHD Dude methodology is the most concise and cost-effective way to help your child with ADHD develop the skills they need to be successful and build their self-confidence through recognizing their abilities. Over 1850 families have now participated in the series.

𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝘄𝗲𝗯𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗿 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝘃𝗮𝗶𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲: https://adhddude.com/executive-function/